What I don’t like

Are we too critical of people who complain?

Positive and mature Christians are not supposed to give much time or attention to that which is negative or lacking.  We champion the boosters, builders and bridge builders; and slam the doubters and complainers; lumping them in the same group as slackers and blockers.

Truth be told, there are things I don’t like about the church, America,  and, at times,  my job.  Does that make me unpatriotic, pessimistic or a fatalist?  I think not.  I don’t like stridently partisan politics.  I don’t like the fact that some people contend, we are better off as a church when we don’t talk about difficult matters like homosexuality, immigration reform, environmental justices or the future of The United Methodist Church.

I believe the Church is of God and therefore, cannot die or ever cease to exist.  I am positive, joyful and rooted in hope most days.  However, some days, I am very inclined to turn a deaf ear to all who may not agree with me or fit into my own prejudicial notions of what is right, true or worthy.  Some days, I don’t like my own attitude.  Lord, have mercy!!!


Time for courageous conversation

As we drove home recently, our conversation shifted from a wonderful dinner and visit to recent news of Shirley Sherrod, and the political and media firestorm over a speech she delivered in 1986 that resulted in her firing.

Race and racism are at the center of the firestorm. In a matter of a few days, apologies and retractions were added to the finger-pointing, as the full content and context of her speech was reviewed.

As Secretary of USDA Tom Vilsack extended an offer for Ms. Sherrod to return to a job at the Department of Agriculture, the spotlight shifted from our daily tracking of the oil spill to the volcanic nature of racial bias—and how social media has become a factor in our conversations on race. 

Political posturing—void of any pursuit of truth and understanding—has often polluted such conversations. Our conversations must have less blame and shame and more guts and grace.

My wife, Racelder, reminded me that we have been involved in conversations over race relations and multi-cultural understanding for well over 30 years. Whether it was a PTO (Parent Teacher Organization)-sponsored event at a high school or a community gathering at a local library, or as part of our life and leadership in the United Methodist Church, we have been talking about race, racism and tolerance (a word we do not find very helpful) for all of our married life, and before. 

 Notwithstanding the election of President Barack Obama and the recent appointment of Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor, the mood and tone in American discourse would suggest we have not yet arrived at the “post-racial society” some have claimed. Race still matters.

Racism is sin, in part, because it infects human relationships with notions of superiority and prejudicial behavior that each violates God’s intention for humanity. Sin is real, and there is enough evidence that the sinful nature of racism cannot be dismissed by constitutionally sound laws or poetic benedictions.

In his 2010 “Letter to Martin,” retired United Methodist Bishop Woodie White writes to Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.: “The battle to end racial division is not yet over. We still have much to do to replace walls of separation and prejudice with communities of love and justice.”

I want to focus on the “we” in the mandate. Racism and bigotry of all flavors cannot be talked away. Courageous conversation, however, that includes self–examination and a pursuit of truth, respect and reconciliation is a good down payment on an ever-improving world.

As a bishop in the church, I am appalled at how easily we Christians shrink from the task of lighting a candle of hope, love and justice in the face of darkness characterized by fear and mistrust. Certainly, the current economic conditions, unresolved immigration debate and post-9/11 terrorism threats have many anxious about the future.

But there is an alternative to our propensity toward pessimism when it comes to racial understanding.

We can choose to invest in community-building, characterized by courageous conversations and intentional relationships. We can begin conversations—again and again—with a goal of investing in a zero tolerance for injustice based on race.

We can celebrate progress without lowering the bar of friendship, so that our conversations result in our being co-laborers in the fight against racism and injustice as we pursue a multi-racial society that is characterized by love, not labels.

In the words of author and professor Cornel West, “a fully functional multi-racial society cannot be achieved without a sense of history and open, honest dialogue.” We can agree to acknowledge and address ignorance, including our own, while we decry bigotry and conscientious stupidity.

Racial understanding and the “beloved community” was something Dr. King believed had to be created by those who love life and profess to love God. We must engage in creative conversations.

We have at our disposal the most durable power in the universe: love. For those of us who are Christians, it is exemplified in Jesus Christ.

Tough love for the rugged road of honest dialogue. Tender love for the grace filled path to better understanding and deeper relationships.

Let’s talk!